| The first massage tip I like to give to men or | | | | essential oil to the massage oil. If is is a cold day |
| women is to really slow down how they touch | | | | you can warm the oil in some hot water or a |
| their partner. Most men touch their partner by | | | | yogurt heater. |
| moving their hands much too fast and are not | | | | If the room is not that warm, use towels on |
| present in touch in their hands. Men need to really | | | | parts of the body you are not massaging. |
| get into the sensations under their hands and not | | | | Another tip is to use a warm water bottle on the |
| to please their partner in anyway. | | | | tummy. |
| Most women like a very soft touch to start an | | | | Vary the speed and the depth of the strokes to |
| massage. See if you can just touch the hairs of | | | | provide variety. Go light and then deeper and slow |
| her skin. Many men also like a very light touch to | | | | and then faster for each stroke. |
| start a massage and find it very pleasing. | | | | Ask your partner to breathe more than they |
| One can also start a massage with a feather or | | | | usually do. Ask them to breathe into the belly |
| some silk. I also use some fake fur to lightly | | | | area and remind them when their breath gets |
| touch the legs, arms, stomach, and neck. One can | | | | shallow again and again. Also if you breath more, |
| also lightly touch the face with the fur or silk. Its | | | | you can get more charge in your hands and |
| good to do a relaxing back massage and pay | | | | fingers. This can help build the energy and make |
| attention to the buttocks as most men and | | | | the massage more of an energy massage |
| women hold a lot of tension in this area. | | | | experience. |
| I find a light tapping on the sacrum area can be | | | | Another good technique is to think of how much |
| very stimulating for some women. Do some long | | | | you love your partner and move this feeling into |
| stokes up the legs and over the stomach and up | | | | your hands and touch. Your partner will feel the |
| to the chest. | | | | love in your hands and melt. This can make the |
| Make sure you use a lot of oil on the body. Grape | | | | massage very healing as many of us have never |
| seed oil is inexpensive or better still use cold | | | | been touched like this. |
| pressed sesame oil. One can add a few drops of | | | | |